Couples often seek help when feeling stuck in a familiar disagreement cycle. They find themselves having a different version of the same conflict again and again. I help each member of the couple to recognize what is going on beneath the surface that fuels these interactions. This enables a different kind of interaction and a more successful outcome. Instead of repeating the frustrating cycle, couples can use these moments to better understand each other.
In my work with couples, I encourage partners to explore the strengths and challenges of their relationship. I look at the areas of attraction in addition to relationship conflicts, and I work to understand the emotional interactions of your communication cycle. The goal is not to change you but to enhance the connection between you.
Verbal disagreements are not necessarily unhealthy. In fact, they can be an important part of a relationship--the expected give and take that occurs when any two people communicate. It makes sense that you will have opinions, desires, preferences that may/may not align with those of your partner. But sometimes couples find themselves stuck in a pattern of disagreements that can feel exhausting and unproductive. When ignored or allowed to continue, this pattern can erode the base of connection and threaten the relationship. By understanding the underlying feelings and desires, therapy offers an opportunity for partners to reconnect.
I have listed several common themes that bring couples to my office. If you would like to address any of the following issues in your relationship, consider contacting me for a free telephone consultation: